What I Learned From Sheryl Sandberg
I was in the audience in Philadelphia last night when Sheryl Sandberg and Adam Grant talked about their new book Option B. I learned three things: [...]
The One Way to Get Control of Yourself
My client was at the end of his rope. He was so frustrated with the inability of the sales team to deliver on reasonable targets that he went on a tirade. He understood that tirades did not work at his level and had committed to finding another way to deal with bad performance. I got down on myself while losing a tennis match, went negative emotionally, and played poorly. My client and I were in the same boat. We had lost control of our emotions and were not being who we desperately wanted to be in a stressful situation. [...]
Meaningful Life Series: How Do You Manage Your Focus?
Managing your focus is key to being productive and accomplishing the things that are really important to you. How do you manage your focus? Pay attention to both quantity and quality of your focus. Get rid of your cell phone or any device that drives distraction for at least 30 minutes in the am and 30 minutes in the pm. [...]
Seven Steps to Authenticity
Try these Seven Steps to authentic leadership daily. The good news is a five minute focus goes a long way. [...]
Ted x Youth Mentoring with Carly Palkon
Doing a TED talk was terrifying and meaningful for me. I am excited to have the opportunity to work with Carly Palkon, a high school student at Ursuline Academy, who is stepping up to the TED challenge and doing her first TED talk on April 2. TED is the 21st century way of communicating ideas. [...]
What Kind Of Work Out Builds Character?
Karissa was a person whose curiosity was limitless. A conversation with her could tire you out but it was never boring or empty. She was kind or you learned something new or both. She savored the best of life including people, experiences, and beautiful days. [...]
The Wisdom of NOT Thinking: Meaningful Life
One of the most meaningful states in life is a flow state. Flow states occur when we are totally in the moment and not thinking. We literally lose self-consciousness and become lost in the task. All athletes aspire to flow states. If you watch Federer on a good day, he personifies it in the world of tennis. Most people experience more flow states in their work than in their family life. What can you do to experience more flow? [...]
Snap Your Fingers To Overcome Stress: Meaningful Life
The power of rituals that we have practiced over and over so that they are wired into our nervous system to overcome a moment of high stress is scientific fact. If you are a tennis player and want evidence, watch the pros. Most of their rituals are more subtle than the beloved Nadal but they all have them. How do we transcend moments of stress when we feel like we can't do anything right on the tennis court and in our life? [...]
Assess How You Relate to Stress: Meaningful Life
I tend to overwork in relation to stress on the tennis court and in my life. I try too hard and burn myself out. Others tend to give up. Still others are skillful in stepping back and working smarter. [...]
Meaningful Life: What Is Your Personal Passion Project?
What is your personal passion project? Work does not count. As important as your family is, it does not count either. A personal passion project is something that you do just for the sake of doing it. You work on your personal passion project because it brings you joy. You work on it because care about it not for an extrinsic reward. The motivation is coming purely from you or is intrinsic. [...]